When domestic violence takes place it creates an odd situation. Those on the outside looking in will see the abuse, know it's abuse yet still decide it's not their place to get involved. The woman being abused will see the same abuse, feel the same abuse but for several reasons decide it's not abuse so the cycle of violence is allowed to continue.
Here are the events and actions that take place in domestic violence. They're presented here in the hope that if you see yourself in any of these situations you'll seek out help and a way to escape it. If you're an observer of any of these elements, it's hoped that you will step up and guide the abused woman to a better life.
No woman deserves abuse.
Signs That A Woman Is Being Abused
She's kept away from family and friends
She always agrees or goes along just to keep the peace
She worries about what her spouse or partner will want or expect of her
Her abuser makes it uncomfortable to be around them
She makes excuses for the abuse
Her abuser makes cruel remarks but says he's just being helpful
She's not allowed to have a job
Her abuser causes her to lose her job
Her abuser constantly displays excessive jealousy
She fears her spouse or partner's temper
She's afraid of what her spouse or partner's mood is that day
She's not allowed to handle or have access to any family finances
She has to supply a detailed account of every minute she's out of the house
She has to supply a detailed account of every penny she spends
She can't make a phone call unless her abuser listens in
She constantly says that she feels like she's walking on eggshells
You don't need a score or an average to figure this out. If you experience or observe just one of these signs, domestic violence is happening. If you're the target of the violence, please visit some of the sites that are available on the Abusive Relationship Resource Page or seek out a local domestic violence group or women's shelter in your area.
If you see this happening to a family member or friend, it's your duty to step forward and help them any way you can. Seeing the person you care about starting a happy new life is a better sight than seeing them in a hospital bed...or a casket.
